Where I (1) practice the art of brag about all that’s been AH-MA-ZING in my week (yes, yes, it’s the same as gratitude but with a little bit more sexy – because we women don’t toot our horns enough); (2) get clear on my desires and master the art of wish-crafting (yes, yes, it’s the same as prayer, but with a little bit more sexy and 100% honesty – because we women often try to hide our appetites behind piety (3) give a little something away every week (oh yes, it’s my new practice of stepping into my generous red shoes).
Friday’s Art of Brag
One of my favorite days this week is discovering nature’s goodness right in my backyard with a mama friend (who is an amazing photographer!) and her darling little one. A few blocks from where we live is a creek (one of the four major ones within the city limits) that led us to this most magical place that felt like coming home. We found the freshest blackberries as if they just arrived in time for summer’s harvest; apples glistening high on trees, low on the ground and a few lucky ones on our mouths; chestnuts sprinkled hidden under golden leaves that crunched underneath our feet.
That morning, I woke up to what seemed to be like a gloomy day. I posted a photo on Instagram (I’m there almost everyday by the way!) with the short note below:
The ground is cold. The sun hides. The greens have turned red and the reds are now turning brown. And crisp. The descent to death has started. Wondering how to embrace and enjoy all this. Breathe. You’ve been here before. And you know that you know what to do. Joy is still here. Even in the dying. No, most especially in the dying. Because new life awaits.
And I realized later that day how it has become a practice of mine to truly welcome the day and live it with open arms, with a playful kind curiosity and with my most honest of all desires: to be fully Here in my body and to be fully Me, as I am in this very moment. I get off course here and there but it feels more and more of familiar path to get right back on with ease.
And I can only remember what it was like to start my mornings with all the Shoulds and Expectations I had bound myself to: the heaviness, the weight, the merciless clawing away to get sh*t done, to be better, to finally measure up in one way or another.
And I breathe it all in with a gratitude of sorts. Grateful for this Freedom and for this new way to live. Grateful for my Nia practice that has helped me embody my desires. Grateful for my husband for his loving support every single day. Grateful for my daughter for opening my eyes and my heart to the wonders that everyday holds. Gratitude for reconnecting with old girlfriends who have not turned me away for holing up in my mama cocoon the past four years. Grateful for support that has come my way: my mama coach circle group and the ladies who inspire me (Hannah and Michelle, you gals rock!), my former wise woman coach (Joanna, I swear every time I sense myself rushing through something, I can hear your voice say “how you do one thing is how you do everything!”), my Nia mentor Jill Pagano and the entire Nia Seattle community who have been such an awesome example of generosity to me.
So that’s my brag of the week. That my life is starting to feel more and more like mine. Imperfect, messy, rooted and domestic but with a gentle eye on a world-domination of the feminine kind. And best of all, a life turned-on to Joy… and to the discovery of what lights me up and sets me on fire.
Wish Crafting Practice
Review of Wish #1: Date Night with the Man is happening! Sort of. It’s become a ritual for us to order Thai take out food and watch Philippine Survivor mid-week and it’s been really fun! Who knew?
Review of Wish #2 and 3: Mama Weekend + Art of Feminine Presence. I realized how wishy washy I can get sometimes. I am so clear that this is what I want and yet I back away, rationalize and as I often do when it’s something that I really really want, I put it on hold until the last minute that it slips past my fingers. I’m afraid. Very afraid to step into my truth this particular way. Or move that direction. The money is there. The hubby says yes. Schedules look clear. And yet, here I am still not registered for the event a mere two weeks away. Hmmm. How could this work? Be okay that I’m feeling stuck. Realize I’ve been in this place before, when I knew I wanted to do Nia and yet took months and months before I said yes. And know that the yes will happen at the right time.
Wish #3: Get clear on what to prioritize in my business and what to let go of. And what kind of additional support I feel like I still need (one-on-one coaching?)
Wish #4: Make space for soulful connections with my own mother.
Finally! We get to the part you’ve been waiting for! I had to pick more than one winner, and if I could, I would give y’all a DVD and more! Thank you thank you so much for participating in this Giveaway and I hope hope hope you all get to try Nia if you haven’t yet.
Winner for the Nia DVD + Book: Bethany
Winner for the Free Nia Class Month Pass: Chessa
Winner for a chance to win the Nia White Belt Intensive: Tasha
Woooohooo! Ladies, please email me for details on how to get your prizes: vinajoybarham (at) gmail (dot) com. And I want to hear back from y’all, okay?
This Week’s Giveaway: On Hold and a Confession
I had planned on giving away a free WordPress Website makeover (woooot!) and a few other awesome things that felt really amazing as ideas, but now is starting to feel like: OMG where will I have time to do all that? I have this tendency to go with my ideas without thinking through them. I’m still learning. It’s so easy for me to get distracted with little sparkly things. Like having giveaways. My intent was to express my deepest gratitude for my community of amazing women and gifting them with the things that have helped transformed my life.
I didn’t exactly consider time constraints and the other realities of life.
I told my husband I really need to stop broadcasting whims that come to me without really weighing the details more carefully first. I need someone in my life who can help me sort the details because I just go with my heart. No judgment, just noticing this is my tendency and learning to tweak my habits with kindness. So with that, I’m putting the giveaway hoopla for now. I’ll revisit it again, maybe for next month. I just need to sloooooow down folks.
Have a great great weekend!
With much Love,