Like you, I hold many identities. Many of which shift and evolve. Some just wither and die.

And so we get to play and discover the many ways that who we truly are & who we want to be are pretty much the one and the same. Just different expressions + iterations at different times.

We are enough at this moment. We already are who we want to be.

And a big part of this work is about listening deeply, peeling the layers, letting go and choosing ourselves over and over and over again.

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My work seems eclectic at first and confounding at times.

Am I focused on self-care? parenting? unschooling? spiritual practice? resistance and activism? decolonizing our life? creating living?

I tackle them all because I see the fluidity and interconnectedness in everything.

I can’t talk about my everyday work as an unschooling mama and not talk about liberation work and dismantling oppressive systems. I can’t talk about the struggles I have with managing my domestic life & work outside the home without talking about intersectional feminism  and I can’t talk about resistance apart from spiritual practice, which I can’t talk about without touching on reclaiming our ancestral identity and lineage.

For the longest time, I thought I was simply indecisive but this is actually one of my superpowers: I see the dots and how they connect with each other. I see the power in weaving these truths together to help us see our lives and each other more clearly.

For Love and Liberation. 

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So in this space, I explore and weave lessons, lived experiences and stories on:

• sacred tending: mothering ourselves, radical self-care, healing trauma, cultivating wellness,  finding your right-fit spiritual practice
• unconventional parenting and unschooling: learning from our children and the parenting journey, parenting and unschooling as resistance and liberation work.
• creative living and authentic work: liberating our art, freeing our gifts for the greater good, living from abundance and creating alternative and more just realities

I do this by sharing here on my blog, writing weekly newsletters, holding space for others 1-1 or in groups both online and in-person, and creating guides for folks.

My people tend to be folks who:

• are in the beginning of their unschooling journey,
• want to dig deeper and understand what’s behind their parenting struggles,
• want to mother themselves better and practice self-care practices that fit
• are shifting their spiritual beliefs and practices and want support
• are going through life transitions and need support and guidance
• are feeling stuck and/or discouraged and want support in moving forward

If you resonate with what I share here and want to connect, please feel free to email me at hello@vinabarham.com!

A little background:

I am unschooling mama making a home & raising two wonder-full girls in the city of Seattle. Becoming a mother was my GAME-CHANGER – it helped me see not only the many layers (aka trauma, internalized racism and other bullshit beliefs) I needed to shed to uncover who I really was, but it also helped me see the oppressive systems that work against motherhood in the process.

I am recovering from multiple PTSD. I have struggled with depression and anxiety my entire life. I’ve grappled with how life would be better if I was dead since I was a child. I am sensitive + fierce AF.

I’m married to this quirky guy +  life partner. I love that I get to go around the sun many times over with him. TBH, I’ve had moments of wondering if we will make it. Marriage is hard, yo. But we are still here.

I grew up in the Philippines and moved to the US when I was 16-years old. I assimilated quickly and in the process lost more than just my Filipino accent: I lost myself and my cultural heritage as well. These days, I am gathering the bits and pieces of myself I’ve discarded. Racism and imperialism and patriarchy can SUCK it.

I am a former Evangelical Christian missionary turned witchy-mystic-seeker. I used to read the Bible for guidance. I now turn to Tarot and the natural world around me. My spiritual practices are eclectic. But mostly, my children are my main teachers and mirrors.

I test INFJ but deep down am an INFP.  Enneagram 4. My sun is in Aries and my moon in Aquarius. My rising sign is Libra. My strengths are Empathy, Connectedness, Ideation, Intellection and Individuation. IF any of that matters. If nothing, labels are fun and keep me sane.

I write, mostly. I dabble in a million of things. I suck in the kitchen, but I keep trying. And I share my story and my path as honestly as I could because it’s part how I heal. And it’s how I help others find healing too.

I’d love to hear from you! You can email me at hello@vinabarham.com or find me on Facebook or Instagram. Or sign up for my newsletter to keep in touch.

“One can heal by literally making a list of all the freedoms denied, and then working backward, taking back all freedoms thwarted, especially those that bring goodness to self and the world back into one’s consciousness, re-setting all action and thought in the holy center, including the right to act, move, create, be, thrive fully.””
— Clarissa Pinkola Estes

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