I’m not into Valentine’s Day.
Let’s skip over the roses and the chocolates please.
My husband, the ever thoughtful one, honored me by taking some time off from work yesterday and today so he can give me what this mama REALLY WANTS: some precious child-free alone time.
And as I think about all the attention we bring to romantic relationships on Valentine’s Day, I want to shift it a little bit and make it about what you REALLY WANT.
What do you REALLY WANT dear sister?
Did you know it’s not easy to know what you really want?
“It isn’t normal to know what we want. It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement” — Abraham Maslow
The world we live in has made it so challenging to do so. We grow up bombarded with ideas and expectations of how to live our life, especially as women. And more especially, as mothers.
So we hide those parts of us that don’t fit. That feel out of place. The parts that feel selfish.
The parts the feel dirty.
The unacceptable bits.
The parts of us that are bitchy. The parts of us that feel rage.
The parts of us that get hard and turned on so we make sure we buy a really padded cover up (you know, your nipples.)
The parts of us that long to not just make gentle love but to fuck real good.
The parts of us that want to come in a really big or sometimes soft way.
The parts of us that are loud and noisy.
And get really really juicy.
That parts of us that feel too wild.
That parts of us that bleed.
That parts of us that spiral back to the same old tired issues that make us feel like shit.
That naked parts of us we don’t like to acknowledge let alone look at. Literally. And figuratively.
The parts of us that crave things we feel we have to hide. Like that stash of chocolate in the kitchen cupboard. Or that lusty novel we can never show ANYONE.
The parts of us that skirt around our desires and settle for shadow work. Copycat work. The work that almost makes us happy but is certainly safe.
The parts of us that call for silence. Ever so deafening and frightening.
The parts of us that bid us to die over and over and over again.
It’s time to come out of hiding.
It’s time to welcome back these parts of us so we can live more whole.
It’s time to embrace the BEAUTY and the WISDOM of the dark so we can live free.
Join me as we explore Dancing Through Darkness tomorrow, Feb 15 . It’s my gift to you. 12 days of diving into these parts of us that long to be loved.